One of the biggest obstacles I've had to face in this journey of recovery is people not understanding what I'm going through. My guess is I'm not alone in that feeling. Living with a mental illness isn't easy for the person with it and it's generally not easy on the people in our lives. And the main thing that I've had to keep reminding myself is grace. I have to give those that don't understand what I'm going through the same grace that I want from them.
My closest support system are the ones that have had to give and receive the most grace. Dealing with someone that at times has had full on emotional and mental breakdowns in front of them was incredibly exhausting for them. In those moments, they had to give me grace. Dealing with people that don't always understand what goes on in my head or why I think the things I do at times is incredibly exhausting for me. In those moments, I had to give them grace.
Living with mental illness and having people in your life that don't can be hard for all involved. And there's a lot of give and take with it. I have to give grace and give patience and give understanding more often than I'd like to. But I also have to receive grace and receive patience and receive understanding more often than I'd like to. And really, that's what it's all about.
I know that I don't have it all figured out and a lot of these things I'm still learning as I go. But I know that grace is one thing we can never have too much of.
If you're finding it hard to connect with people or that it's hard to explain to them what's going on, please know that you aren't alone. We won't act like we know everything or that we have all the answers, but we can and will provide support and love to you along your journey. These are day to day choices that we all have to make. The more people to have on my journey, the less lonely I'll be on those tough days.
We're gonna make it through this. One day at a time. One small victory at a time.
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Until next time,