Monday I wrote about what I wish the church knew about mental illness. I felt that it was a topic worth discussing and I also feel that this topic as a whole, things I wish the church knew, was a topic worth exploring farther. There are a lot of things that I wish the church knew and I hope that through these next few blogs, I can tackle some issues that need to be addressed.
Today I want to talk about what I wish the church knew about being a young single adult in the church. Being someone who is a young single and in a leadership position, there are a lot of questions that come my way. Mostly unwarranted.
"When are you going to find a man and settle down?" "Why aren't you married yet?" "Aren't you ready to settle down by now? You're almost 30."
And well, the list could go on and on. And I know that these dear older adults mean well, but I don't need you to constantly point out the fact that I am indeed pushing 30 and still not married. I'm well aware.
And because of that, I wish the church knew that if I was ready to be married, I would be. I wish they knew that this is the best time in my life to do ministry because it's just me! I don't have to take all these other things or people into consideration before I dive into something.
I wish they knew that I am still fully capable of serving in ministry while being single. That I don't need a ring on my finger to better serve the church. That I've been serving in the church my entire adult life while being single.
I wish thy knew that being single doesn't mean I'm broken. That the world is at my fingertips and that while I appreciate the well intended inquiries to my singleness, that I am content in it. That I'm happy. And that I am thoroughly enjoying this season of my life.
I have my whole life ahead of me and my whole life to be married, if I choose to be. But for now, I choose to remain in this season that God has placed me in. That being a 26 year old single female is perfectly okay. And that I am still just as capable of serving the church as my married counterparts are.
If you're in your mid 20s or older and still single, that's okay. You keep doing you baby. Be confident that you are where you are for a reason and to serve a purpose. Wedding bells aren't for everyone. But if they are for you, don't lose heart. Your moment will come.
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Until next time,