It affects all of us differently.
For some it last for years.
For others, not as long.
And while I'm certainly not proposing that you don't grieve when you lose someone, but rather that we don't forget to live in those seasons of grief.
As someone who has already buried both of her parents, I know a lot about grief. More than I wish I did. But whether or not I like the hand that I've been dealt in terms of my family life, it's the one I have. And let me tell you something, life went on without them. And life went on without me while I was denying what I was going through.
Life while you're grieving isn't easy. It isn't pleasant. But it's necessary.
We were left here for a reason.
And I know how cliche that sounds.
But we spend so much time mourning what we've lost instead of rejoicing in what we still have.
And I know that I am probably stepping on some toes.
Who am I to tell someone how to grieve?
And you're right.
But I can tell you this.
Living does get easier.
You will learn to smile again.
These things will happen because when you allow yourself to start healing, you will start to see your loved on in the simple everyday things.
You will feel them in the wind.
The warmth of the sun will remind you of the warmth of their embrace.
It's never easy to be told that life goes on with or without you.
But it's imperative to own that.
My youth pastor/mentor said it best: "Good medicine seldom tastes good".
We usually don't like to hear hard truths.
The things that we desperately need to hear are typically the things we don't want to hear.
I'm thankful for the people in my life that have told me the hard truths that I've needed to hear.
Some of those were in reference the ways I was dealing with my grief.
Grief is a process.
For some it lasts longer than others.
And that's okay.
But I encourage you to remember to live.
Life still has the ability to be beautiful.
Sometimes you end up doing greater things than what you ever thought possible.
You'll know when your season of grief has passed.
Don't let anyone tell you that you've been grieving for too long.
But I've learned that the best way to honor the memory of your loved one is to keep living.
But you'll get there.
Don't underestimate the power that you have inside of you.
You are worth this life.
It won't always be so heavy.
But you have to be here to see that.
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Until next time,